Relationships.

Yestd's cny service was awesome. Many frens turned up and I believe they were really blessed. REallie wished my frens were there tho. Pastor Derek talked to us about relationships and it is a topic that is relevant to all our lives. In fact it is an issue that no one can escape from. Our lives are made up of the people in it. And it really does not matter what you know but who you know.


There are 4 negative attitudes that destroy our relationships. (or friendships)

1)Selfishness

When he said that, it was like the holyspirit giving me a whack in the head. OUCH
I must admit, we are all born selfish by nature. and ya la.. i'm selfish too. SOMETIMES.heh. Especially wen it comes to me and weijie. I always want MY freedom. MY way.
yeaa i'm a bad girl. hahaa. i'll try to change. Guess what the antidote for selfishness is? SELF-LESSNESS duh. haha. i figured a way to do that---put urself in that person's shoes. it works.

But yea.. sometimes ppl are sooo consumed with themselves that they wallow in self-pity that ends up in jealousy. And thats what happens in many friendships today. C'mon ppl, why not just enjoy the friendships u have rather than filling ur thots with why the world is so unfair. Isnt it more tiring for u like dat?


2)Pride is another enemy of relationships.

okay so for girls its called pride. for guys? MALE EGO
hahaha. well if u really love the person and treasure the friendship.. how much is ur pride worth rite? But still its easier to say than to actually do it. And i'll be the first to say Amen to that. hahaa.

Guess what the antidote for pride is??----HUMILITY. So the next qn would be how to get humility? *drumroll* By spending time with Jesus la. Boy is he the most humble King i've ever known. He ate and fellowship with prostitues, washed the feet of his servants.. wow..I really need to spend more time with him and his ppl. You see, we become like the person we spend the most time with. thats why best frens always look alike, dress alike.. somehow u will become influenced unknowingly. If u hang out with a bunch of positive ppl all the time, u'll naturally become more positive. Start hanging out with creative ppl and ur own creative juices will start flowing.


3)Insecurity destroys relationships

Hey all army guys! listen up. hahahha. kidding. Insecure ppl tend to be very controlling. and i think i used to be like that. used to la.... now no more..i hope. hehe. yea but i guess its really becos he has reassured me with sooo much love that has helped me snapped out of it. hahaha. okay i dunno how to rephrase la. but i guess now its my turn. hai. so difficult. now i understand how he felt last time. insecurity leads to suspicion and distrust and thats really tiring for a relationship. Perfect love casts out all fear. So even if u have no faith in your partner.. have faith in Jesus. Only he is able to give you perfect love. He is the only man who loved you so much he chose to die on the cross for you. And as u bask in his love, fear and insecurity will seem to fade away.


4) Resentment destroys relationship.

One thing weijie strongly believed in was that we should never let our anger be carried forward to the next day. And i really believe thats what kept our relationship for so long. hello? 3 years and 4 mths noe. hahhaa. No matter how angry or how upset he was the day before, the next day is a brand new day and everything will start anew. HA! dats what i admire most abt him. He forgives!!

But really, to worry youself with resentment is a foolish thing to do
-you cannot change what has already happened. Why do you still want to dwell in your anguish and hatred?


Antidote: FORGIVENESS.

Forgiveness is letting go of the pain and the right to dwell in it.



We all have done something before that requires forgiveness and becos we are forgiven, all the more we need to forgive the ones who hurt us.
I like weini's caption at the bottom of her blog. Release the one who has hurt you.